As a follow up to the Ashley Madison Article I posted yesterday, Here is another article from Mari Lee, LMFT, CSAT on how to heal after the Hack.
In the aftermath of the Ashley Madison hack, my therapy center has been blowing up with calls and emails from individuals and couples who are afraid, ashamed, and angry. These hurting people are asking for help in moving through the painful discovery or disclosure sharing that their relationship has been impacted by deceptive sexual choices, including infidelity on the Ashley Madison website.
If you are reading this and you are the person who has “cheated” on a loved one and have been losing sleep this week, terrified that your secret sexual life will soon be revealed, you have likely been scanning the Internet looking for ways to support yourself and salvage your relationship.
Or perhaps waiting was creating too much anxiety for you, and you decided to come clean with your significant other and are now dealing with the consequence of your partner or spouse’s trauma, betrayal, anger and confusion.
Maybe you are the wounded partner or spouse reading this, and have either discovered or your partner disclosed to you about his or her affair or account with Ashley Madison. If so, my heart goes out to you. I have stood in those shoes and know first hand the devastation you are feeling right now.
As a couple in crisis it may feel like this is the end of the road for you. The trust is broken, the information is out, you are ashamed and enraged, the arguments, tears and excuses have been keeping you up late into the evening, and you are exhausted and feeling hopeless.
And now…what do you do? Continue Reading…
This blog post was written by Mari A. Lee, LMFT, CSAT-S