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Feel like a terrible mother because your kids saw your rage after betrayal? One woman’s path back to herself and them.

Betrayal blindness explains why smart, strong women miss the signs of cheating, and why missing them is not a flaw.

How did I not see it? If you blame yourself for missing the signs of his betrayal, there is a kinder way to look back.

Every One of Them Had a Job: Understanding Anger After Betrayal Trauma Teresa Zuvela, LMHC, CSAT, CPTT · Stage: Integrate There is a list most women can recite about themselves after discovery, and every item on it is said with contempt. I checked his phone at two in the morning like some kind of detective. … Read more

The rage after betrayal frightened you more than it frightened anyone else. It was not proof you are unstable. It had a job. Here is what it was doing.

Still Getting Triggered After Betrayal? You May Be Measuring the Wrong Thing Teresa Zuvela, LMHC, CSAT, CPTT · Stage: Integrate The woman in this story is a composite. Her details are drawn from many years of this work and changed enough that she is no one in particular, which is another way of saying she … Read more