Self-Forgiveness After Betrayal: Guilt, Shame, and Repair With Your Children
Self-forgiveness after betrayal grows from a steadier body. How guilt differs from shame, and how repair with kids begins.
Betrayal Trauma
I Feel Like a Terrible Mother: When Your Kids Saw Your Rage After Betrayal
Feel like a terrible mother because your kids saw your rage after betrayal? One woman’s path back to herself and them.
Betrayal Blindness: Why Smart, Strong Women Miss the Signs
Betrayal blindness explains why smart, strong women miss the signs of cheating, and why missing them is not a flaw.
How Did I Not See It? When You Blame Yourself for Missing the Signs
How did I not see it? If you blame yourself for missing the signs of his betrayal, there is a kinder way to look back.
Every One of Them Had a Job: Understanding Anger After Betrayal Trauma
Every One of Them Had a Job: Understanding Anger After Betrayal Trauma Teresa Zuvela, LMHC, CSAT, CPTT · Stage: Integrate There is a list most women can recite about themselves after discovery, and every item on it is said with contempt. I checked his phone at two in the morning like some kind of detective. … Read more
The Rage After Betrayal: Why the Size of It Scared You
The rage after betrayal frightened you more than it frightened anyone else. It was not proof you are unstable. It had a job. Here is what it was doing.
Still Getting Triggered After Betrayal? You May Be Measuring the Wrong Thing
Still Getting Triggered After Betrayal? You May Be Measuring the Wrong Thing Teresa Zuvela, LMHC, CSAT, CPTT · Stage: Integrate The woman in this story is a composite. Her details are drawn from many years of this work and changed enough that she is no one in particular, which is another way of saying she … Read more
Making Decisions After Betrayal: When Everyone Has an Opinion and You Don’t Know Who to Listen To
Making Decisions After Betrayal: When Everyone Has an Opinion and You Don’t Know Who to Listen To Teresa Zuvela, LMHC, CSAT, CPTT · Stage: Reclaim She was standing in the middle of her own living room, and she could not move. One of the kids needed something from her. Her phone was in her hand … Read more
Green, Yellow, Red: How to Know Who to Trust After Betrayal
Green, Yellow, Red: How to Know Who to Trust After Betrayal Teresa Zuvela, LMHC, CSAT, CPTT · Stage: Reclaim She was the one everybody called. She ran the household and held down a career. She got the kids to practice and to games and to the orthodontist. When someone asked her for something, she said … Read more
Trusting Yourself After Gaslighting: When Your Body Already Knows the Answer
Trusting Yourself After Gaslighting: When Your Body Already Knows the Answer Teresa Zuvela, LMHC, CSAT, CPTT · Stage: Reclaim You already know what your body does when he is in the house. When he is gone, the rooms are quiet in a way you can feel in your chest. You sleep. You make dinner without … Read more