They seem terrifying, but your feelings are the key to healing. It takes time, so don't be hard on yourself. If you suffered from childhood sexual abuse you probably land in one of two camps; those who have nightmares and avoid sexual experiences out of fear, and those that repeat the pattern of sexual trauma, justifying it in the name of freedom. Both behaviors are problematic and can deprive you of a fulfilling life. Even though you were abused as a child, it doesn't mean you need to live a ...read more
Teresa’s interview by Carol The Coach on Blog Talk Radio
Carol the Coach Interviewed Teresa Maples on March 3, 2014 about Partners of Cheaters. If you are interested click on the link and you can listen to the interview in it's entirety. Teresa talked about her up coming webinar and how she can help women who want healing after being betrayed by their partners. Many partners feel like they are going crazy and the cheater often wants you to believe you are the problem and reason they cheated. This is simply hogwash and manipulation on the cheaters ...read more
Live Radio Show March 3
Teresa Maples, MS, Licensed Mental Health Counselor, and Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist, and YourTango Expert, will be interviewed by Carol the Coach on Blog Talk Radio. She will be discussing an exciting new transformational educational healing process she has developed for partners who have experienced sexual betrayal. You can join the radio show live on Monday March 3, 2014 at 6pm PST, 9pm ESThttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/sexhelpwithcarolthecoach If you have ...read more
Manipulation And The Sex Addict: How To Find Value In Yourself
When it comes to sex and intimacy, trust your inner voice to create boundaries If you are a partner of a sex addict, you probably don't even know it yet. A typical sex addict relationship begins with both people blinded to the subtle red flags of the sex addicts underlying beliefs. One of his beliefs is that sex is love. He wants it to feel loved and oftentimes there is no other way for him to feel loved. But this is simply a MYTH he believes. He has just not experienced how to feel those ...read more
5 Reasons Disney Starlets Are Terrible Role Models For Your Kids
Hollywood starlets don't pay for their mistakes...but your daughter likely will. I don't know about you but observing young Nickelodeon and Disney starlets growing up has been difficult to watch, especially while raising daughters. In their younger years, the Disney starlets are portrayed as innocent little girls who could be seen as role models for their peer audience. As long as the only thing we know about these actresses is their acting role, everything is fine. Our daughters ...read more
A Christian Look At Marriage: It’s Not The Marriage You Think
The holiday season is perhaps the most stressful season on couples through out the year. The pressure of family gatherings and dealing with family personalities is tough for many couples. So how do you stay connected with your most intimate partner and help protect each other? In reality, most couples don't' know how to do this very well, especially when their stress meter is off the charts. People tend to seek professional help when they are hurting the most. This is one of the ...read more
When Men Choose Porn Over Their Wives
He is miserable to be around¦ unhappy, unfulfilled, he has a black cloud over him, he is negative about everything, and no matter what you say or do he finds a way to crush your spirit. He is caught in the cycle of pornography addiction. He has lived with a never-ending cycle of lies and deceit. He has no idea of how to do anything different. He has relied on his lover pornography for years. She has brought him soothing and comfort from his feelings of isolation, and the stresses of life for a ...read more
Heterosexual Men Ask, Am I Gay?
A man married for 21 years is sitting across from me in my office. His wife is horrible upset and has threatened to leave him. She told him to get into counseling right away and he agreed. Now he is sitting in front of me in my counseling office telling me a secret he has kept for over 30 years. After a long period of silence he softly says, I have had sex with men as far back as I can remember. I am not romantically attracted to men. Men just seem to be available to hook up with and I ...read more
Do 12 Step Meetings Work For Sex Addicts?
As a Sex Addiction Therapist I am asked all the time how can I stop my sexual acting out behavior? While the acting out behaviors are different for everyone, the root causes are very similar. Treating the root causes of the addiction is how people gain sanity in their lives. A healthy lifestyle is encouraged by attending 12 step meetings, individual counseling, sex addiction group counseling and living a life that includes recovery from addiction. Participating in all that recovery ...read more
Help, I Think I’m Married To A Sex Addict
My whole world feels upside-down, I noticed she was tearful, and her whole body was shaking. I asked her to tell me more. She said, I found a secret phone with lots of names of women on it. I called a few of the numbers, the women answered in a sexy voice with my husbands name. She then began sobbing. I waited. Her sorrow deserved respect and even honer. She had just experienced the ultimate betrayal of intimate partners. She needed time to allow the shock of what she discovered to ...read more