Hollywood starlets don't pay for their mistakes...but your daughter likely will. I don't know about you but observing young Nickelodeon and Disney starlets growing up has been difficult to watch, especially while raising daughters. In their younger years, the Disney starlets are portrayed as innocent little girls who could be seen as role models for their peer audience. As long as the only thing we know about these actresses is their acting role, everything is fine. Our daughters ...read more
A Christian Look At Marriage: It’s Not The Marriage You Think
The holiday season is perhaps the most stressful season on couples through out the year. The pressure of family gatherings and dealing with family personalities is tough for many couples. So how do you stay connected with your most intimate partner and help protect each other? In reality, most couples don't' know how to do this very well, especially when their stress meter is off the charts. People tend to seek professional help when they are hurting the most. This is one of the ...read more
When Men Choose Porn Over Their Wives
He is miserable to be around¦ unhappy, unfulfilled, he has a black cloud over him, he is negative about everything, and no matter what you say or do he finds a way to crush your spirit. He is caught in the cycle of pornography addiction. He has lived with a never-ending cycle of lies and deceit. He has no idea of how to do anything different. He has relied on his lover pornography for years. She has brought him soothing and comfort from his feelings of isolation, and the stresses of life for a ...read more
Heterosexual Men Ask, Am I Gay?
A man married for 21 years is sitting across from me in my office. His wife is horrible upset and has threatened to leave him. She told him to get into counseling right away and he agreed. Now he is sitting in front of me in my counseling office telling me a secret he has kept for over 30 years. After a long period of silence he softly says, I have had sex with men as far back as I can remember. I am not romantically attracted to men. Men just seem to be available to hook up with and I ...read more
Do 12 Step Meetings Work For Sex Addicts?
As a Sex Addiction Therapist I am asked all the time how can I stop my sexual acting out behavior? While the acting out behaviors are different for everyone, the root causes are very similar. Treating the root causes of the addiction is how people gain sanity in their lives. A healthy lifestyle is encouraged by attending 12 step meetings, individual counseling, sex addiction group counseling and living a life that includes recovery from addiction. Participating in all that recovery ...read more
Help, I Think I’m Married To A Sex Addict
My whole world feels upside-down, I noticed she was tearful, and her whole body was shaking. I asked her to tell me more. She said, I found a secret phone with lots of names of women on it. I called a few of the numbers, the women answered in a sexy voice with my husbands name. She then began sobbing. I waited. Her sorrow deserved respect and even honer. She had just experienced the ultimate betrayal of intimate partners. She needed time to allow the shock of what she discovered to ...read more
When Porn Goes From A Hobby To A Problem
With easy access to the Internet, porn is just one click away. Research has shown that most men (over95%) have viewed porn at some time in their lives. The porn industry has been the number one income producing industry in the country for quite some time. There are many reasons for that; the main one is that the porn industry exploits those people who are obsessively compelled to search for new and novel stimulating images. The line where porn becomes a problem is different for each ...read more
Where Is My Happily Ever After?
You may have found your prince, but what happens when he begins looking more like a toad? Where is my happily ever after? We have all been exposed over and over to romantic stories from movies and television, and the story always ends when the romantic partners finally get together and live happily ever after. In actuality, this is when the realrelationship story begins. There are several stages that relationships go through over time, but most of us want the happily ever after ” ...read more
Positive Self-Esteem Influences Intimacy
Discover how developing your self-esteem deepens intimacy. The new Dove Advertising Campaign video has gone viral. It was released on YouTube 4/14/2013, and after 4 days has had over 7 million views. The Ad itself is a social experiment where women described themselves to a forensic sketch artist. Then strangers described the same women to the artist. The side by side portraits are telling of how we as women are harsher on ourselves than others are of us. What is it that this ...read more
Infidelity, What Do I Need To Know?
This question is often asked of me, What are the things I need to know if I suspect infidelity in my relationship? Most people are wanting more intimacy in their relationship, others are wanting to know so they can drop the relationship and move on. I've included several articles that will give you information about some next steps to consider. What's Good Husband Material? Think He's Cheating? Here Is What To Do Emotionally Opening Up In Relationships 10 Love Tools ...read more